The holiday season has always been my favorite time of year. I love the lights, the cozy meals, the festive music—and yes, the gift giving. But growing up in Birmingham, Michigan, my family taught me that the best gifts are the ones you give to others, especially to those who might not have much to celebrate.
For as long as I can remember, my family has made it a tradition to adopt local families in need during the holidays. It’s something we look forward to just as much as unwrapping presents or decorating the tree. Over the years, this tradition has become one of the most meaningful parts of our holiday season—and it’s shaped how I think about giving, gratitude, and community.
Now, as a college student at Michigan State University, I still take time each year to participate in this tradition with my family. In fact, it’s something I hope to continue for the rest of my life, and one day share with my own future family. If you’ve ever thought about giving back during the holidays but didn’t know where to start, I hope my story can help.
Why Adopting Families Matters
The holidays are often portrayed as a time of abundance—gifts under the tree, tables full of food, and happy gatherings. But for many families, especially those facing financial hardship, the season can bring stress, sadness, or even a sense of isolation. That’s why adopting a family—essentially sponsoring their holiday needs—can make such a difference.
When you adopt a family, you usually receive a “wish list” of items they need or hope to receive, such as clothes, toys, household essentials, or holiday meals. Then you shop for those items, wrap them, and deliver them through a partner organization. It’s a simple but powerful act of kindness that can bring joy, relief, and dignity to families who might otherwise go without.
For me, knowing that we’ve helped make someone’s holiday a little brighter—especially children—is the most rewarding gift I could ever receive.
How We Got Started
Our family’s journey with holiday giving began when my mom, Jennifer, got involved with local charities and shelters through her nonprofit, My Story, which donates journals and art supplies to kids. One year, she suggested we adopt a family for the holidays. I was probably in middle school, and I remember feeling excited about the idea of shopping not just for ourselves, but for another family who really needed help.
That first experience opened our eyes. We realized how many families in our own community were struggling—and how much it meant to be able to help, even in a small way. Since then, we’ve adopted multiple families each holiday season, working with local organizations like Care House of Oakland County and Jewish Federation.
It’s become a true family effort. My brothers, Jack and Greyson, help with shopping and wrapping. We all go out together, pick thoughtful gifts, and take time to write notes or decorate packages. It’s not just a task—it’s a bonding experience that brings us closer and reminds us of what the season is really about.
How You Can Start Your Own Tradition
You don’t need to run a nonprofit or have tons of extra money to adopt a family. You just need a willing heart, a little planning, and a desire to give back. Here’s how you can start:
- Find a Local Organization
Many community groups, shelters, religious organizations, and nonprofits organize holiday adoption programs. Reach out early—some families sign up for help in November or even October. Look for groups you trust or that are active in your area. - Get the Wish List
Once you’re matched with a family, you’ll usually receive a list of needs and wishes. This can include children’s clothing sizes, favorite colors or toys, or household essentials. Try to follow the list thoughtfully, but don’t be afraid to add a little extra surprise. - Involve Everyone
Make it a family event! Assign tasks—someone shops for clothes, someone else wraps gifts, another handles cards or delivery. It makes the process fun, meaningful, and collaborative. - Set a Budget
Giving back doesn’t mean breaking the bank. Decide how much you can spend and stick to it. Even modest gifts can have a huge impact. Some families also do group giving with neighbors or friends to share the cost. - Add Personal Touches
We love adding handwritten cards, homemade decorations, or little extras like hot cocoa or festive candles. These touches show that someone truly cared and took the time to make their holiday special.
More Than Just Gifts
What I’ve learned over the years is that adopting families is about more than gifts—it’s about showing people that they’re not forgotten. That their community sees them, values them, and wants to support them through tough times. It’s a reminder that kindness still exists, and that we all have a part to play in spreading it.
For me, this tradition has also sparked a bigger commitment to service. I continue to volunteer with groups like Chabad, Yad Ezra, and Make-A-Wish Foundation, and I donate to causes like ALS research and local shelters. Helping others has become part of who I am, and it all started with those first holiday shopping trips for families in need.
Final Thoughts
Holiday giving doesn’t have to be extravagant. It doesn’t require a huge organization or a massive effort. It just takes a little time, a little heart, and a desire to make someone’s season brighter.
Adopting a family has brought so much joy and meaning to my life, and I hope it inspires others to start their own traditions of giving. Whether you’re a student, a parent, or just someone who wants to help, I promise this: the impact you make will last far beyond the holiday season.
Because in the end, the best gifts are the ones that come from compassion and those are the gifts we never forget.